Father of Mollie Tibbetts writes op-ed demanding that people not distort her death to push their racist views.

By |2018-09-03T13:32:30-08:00September 3rd, 2018|Categories: News|Tags: , , , , , , |14 Comments

That seems like a reasonable request.

Here is the op-ed in full from Des Moines Register:

Ten days ago, we learned that Mollie would not be coming home. Shattered, my family set out to celebrate Mollie’s extraordinary life and chose to share our sorrow in private. At the outset, politicians and pundits used Mollie’s death to promote various political agendas. We appealed to them and they graciously stopped. For that, we are grateful.

Sadly, others have ignored our request. They have instead chosen to callously distort and corrupt Mollie’s tragic death to advance a cause she vehemently opposed. I encourage the debate on immigration; there is great merit in its reasonable outcome. But do not appropriate Mollie’s soul in advancing views she believed were profoundly racist. The act grievously extends the crime that stole Mollie from our family and is, to quote Donald Trump Jr., “heartless” and “despicable.”

Make no mistake, Mollie was my daughter and my best friend. At her eulogy, I said Mollie was nobody’s victim. Nor is she a pawn in others’ debate. She may not be able to speak for herself, but I can and will. Please leave us out of your debate. Allow us to grieve in privacy and with dignity. At long last, show some decency. On behalf of my family and Mollie’s memory, I’m imploring you to stop.

Throughout this ordeal I’ve asked myself, “What would Mollie do?” As I write this, I am watching Sen. John McCain lie in state in the Capitol Rotunda and know that evil will succeed only if good people do nothing. Both Mollie and Senator McCain were good people. I know that both would stand up now and do something.

The person who is accused of taking Mollie’s life is no more a reflection of the Hispanic community as white supremacists are of all white people. To suggest otherwise is a lie. Justice in my America is blind. This person will receive a fair trial, as it should be. If convicted, he will face the consequences society has set. Beyond that, he deserves no more attention.

To the Hispanic community, my family stands with you and offers its heartfelt apology. That you’ve been beset by the circumstances of Mollie’s death is wrong. We treasure the contribution you bring to the American tapestry in all its color and melody. And yes, we love your food.

My stepdaughter, whom Mollie loved so dearly, is Latina. Her sons — Mollie’s cherished nephews and my grandchildren — are Latino. That means I am Hispanic. I am African. I am Asian. I am European. My blood runs from every corner of the Earth because I am American. As an American, I have one tenet: to respect every citizen of the world and actively engage in the ongoing pursuit to form a more perfect union.

Given that, to knowingly foment discord among races is a disgrace to our flag. It incites fear in innocent communities and lends legitimacy to the darkest, most hate-filled corners of the American soul. It is the opposite of leadership. It is the opposite of humanity. It is heartless. It is despicable. It is shameful.

We have the opportunity now to take heed of the lessons that Mollie, John McCain and Aretha Franklin taught — humanity, fairness and courage. For most of the summer, the search for Mollie brought this nation together like no other pursuit. There was a common national will that did transcend opinion, race, gender and geography. Let’s not lose sight of that miracle. Let’s not lose sight of Mollie.

Instead, let’s turn against racism in all its ugly manifestations both subtle and overt. Let’s turn toward each other with all the compassion we gave Mollie. Let’s listen, not shout. Let’s build bridges, not walls. Let’s celebrate our diversity rather than argue over our differences. I can tell you, when you’ve lost your best friend, differences are petty and meaningless.

My family remains eternally grateful to all those who adopted Mollie so completely and showered us with so much care, compassion and generosity. Please accept our desire to remain private as we share our loss. We love Mollie with all our hearts and miss her terribly. We need time.

I posted this is full because I wanted to honor what this man was trying to say, and not cherry pick bits and pieces to push my own point of view. 

This man lost his daughter, and it is not right for anybody to use her death to push an agenda. 

Especially one that is designed to injure or demonize a certain segment of our population. 

Sadly there are those who do not feel the same. 

My supposition is that this was written with them in mind. 

If I lost my daughter I would be inconsolable. 

And If I found that anybody was using her death to attack innocent people in order to push a political agenda I would be enraged. 

I think most of us would feel the same. 

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  1. P September 3, 2018 at 4:39 am

    I feel like Mollie is another victim of an acquaintance who felt he had a chance with her. Not saying she knew him directly or well but she knew his girlfriend.

    We’ve got to do something about this Nazi like racism.

    • Anonymous September 3, 2018 at 5:00 am

      And how exactly do we do that when our very own (cough) president (cough) encourages it?
      There’s nothing that rat bastard would like more than civil war. Listen to his dog whistles…..

  2. Anon September 3, 2018 at 5:28 am

    My heart goes out to this family. The father’s letter is well written and coincides with reality that regardless of color and religion each has an element of depraved and dangerous people to law breakers. It has been an eye opener for me that far more people than I ever knew are racists and bigots.

    • Anonymous September 3, 2018 at 6:03 am

      Same here. I hardly do social media because of it.

  3. Anonymous September 3, 2018 at 5:30 am

    Now that the president has tainted the juror pool,he might even get off on a technicality.

    • Anonymous September 3, 2018 at 6:00 am

      When you lead police to the body, I highly doubt it.

    • Anonymous September 3, 2018 at 6:25 am

      When Christopher Watts’ defense is that his pregnant wife strangled his daughters, and therefore he killed HER, expecting people to believe it, anything is possible in our new culture of the “stupider” you are the better.

  4. Anonymous in Chicago September 3, 2018 at 7:02 am

    Trump and Asshole Junior, are all about hate and insensitivity.

    What an incredible human being Mollie’s father must be to write such a heartfelt and unselfish op-ed to America, reminding all of us to live our lives with humanity and respect, despite their family’s horrific tragedy. My heart goes out to Mollie Tibbetts family, especially her loving father.

  5. Hell Hot Enough, Johnny? September 3, 2018 at 7:25 am

    Johnnie Cochrane relied on racism to get OJ off the hook. It worked. Can’t forget that example ever. It opened the last remaining floodgate leading to modern day in-your-face tribalized racism, both for and against.

    Cochrane couldn’t have self-died fast enough.

    • Guilty September 3, 2018 at 8:09 am

      INJUSTICE.>Until watching the film, Garcetti said he hadn’t fully realized the depth of the negative feeling the black community had for the criminal justice system in Los Angeles;
      “In days leading up to the jury’s verdict, as he was preparing public remarks, he said he was unable to think of what to say if the outcome was “not guilty,” nor could anyone he consulted.
      He was truly surprised when, in a private meeting with Jimmy Carter — who was town with Habitat for Humanity — the former president told him,
      “Of course, they’re coming back with not guilty. This is payback. There’s nothing you can say. There’s nothing you can do.”


  6. room September 3, 2018 at 7:27 am

    Tell that to empathyless Ann Coulter.

    • Anonymous September 3, 2018 at 8:03 am

      Perhaps she, and those like her, would like to explain how serial killers and mass shooting perpetrators are 99% white folk.

  7. anon September 3, 2018 at 8:00 am

    ‘Strictly pathetic laws…the…Worst in the world…’

  8. Anonymous September 3, 2018 at 8:36 am


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